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EXPRESSIONS
OF LOVE
. LOVE. This, above all things, distinguishes Christianity. It constitutes the great divide that sets Christianity apart from the world and the religions of this world. It is not just some warm, wishy-washy, and impulsive fuzzy feeling (amounting specifically to nothing). (This may distinguish human love at times). In its New Testament meaning, it is a profound word that has definite body (with legs to walk upon) and purpose. Hence, in its execution and fulfillment, it is expressed in the most meaningful of ways. And the word we are talking about is agapé. Can Love
Be Commanded?
WE HEAR people say that
love can’t be
commanded. Is this true? Can love be commanded? The answer is yes.
The
answer is no. It is just according to what kind of love
you are
talking about.
Therefore, agapao love (involving the
intellect and the will) can be commanded,
and it is
commanded (as in the great commandment, loving our enemies, and
elsewhere
throughout the New Testament). But phileo love,
in its basic inherent meaning, is not commanded (except
indirectly). It is more of a natural and spontaneous response; it just
happens.
We are to love (agapao)
our enemies, but it is
hard to be emotional about it (phileo).
We can have high
esteem (agapao) for them
(in the sense of respecting God’s image
in them and wishing them well) and not even like (phileo) them
(it would be hard to be emotional about it).
Can love be commanded? Yes and no. These are our conclusions from a word study.—J.E.G. “The Greek word agapé
(love) seems to have been virtually a Christian invention -- a new word for a new thing (apart from
about twenty occurrences
in the Greek version of the Old Testament, it is almost non-existent
before the
New Testament). Agapé draws
its meaning directly from the revelation of God in
Christ. It is not a form of natural affection, however, intense, but a
supernatural fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22). It is a matter of
will
rather than feeling (for Christians must love even those they
dislike—Matthew
5:44-48). It is the basic element in Christ-likeness.
“Read 1 Corinthians 13
and note what these verses have to say
about the primacy (vv. 1-3) and permanence (vv. 8-13) of love; note too
the
profile of love (vv. 4-7) which they give.” (a well-worded quotation
from one
James Packer)
In 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a, we find how this love should find expression through us, both passively and actively: “Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.” (NKJV) In this article, for our lesson, we would like to selectively pick out some Scriptures and look into a few of the many ways that love can find expression through us. We can examine this from the viewpoint of how God expresses His love toward us. Then we can highlight it from our personal perspective. Keep 1 Corinthians 13 in mind as we notice various Scriptures.
“For God So Loved the World That He Gave” “For God so loved the world, that He gave…” Yes, He gave. Highlight these all-important words. They represent the great characterizing expression of love, emanating from God Himself. Romans 5:8 reads, “But God commendeth [demonstrated] His love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” This same thought is emphasized in 1 John 4:9-11, with the admonition, “Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought to love one another.” In what God has done we have the ultimate example of giving and the ultimate expression of love which we are to emulate.
God gave
“His only begotten Son” (John 3:16). While God the Father was giving,
the Son
was giving. The apostle Paul spoke of “the Son of God, who loved me,
and gave himself
for me” (Galatians 2:20). Toward the end of his ministry, Jesus
instructed his
disciples, “This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have
loved
you. Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life
for his
friends” (John 15:12-13). And from this statement of love later comes
Paul’s
admonition in Ephesians 5:1 and 2, “Be ye therefore followers of God,
as dear
children: And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath
given
himself for us…” (These Ephesian verses sort of sum it up, including
God the
Father and the Son, Christ, in this exhortation on love). Our
“Work and
Labour of Love”
Love is the embodiment of
genuine care and concern that is unselfishly expressed in giving and in
other
selfless kindred acts. It is active. Paul, indirectly illustrates this
giving
love, when he wrote, dealing with the problems in the church at Love
“in Deed and in Truth”
A very
expressive and impressive section of Scripture is found in 1 John
3:16-18. It
reads, “Hereby perceive we the love of God, because he laid down his
life for
us: and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. But whoso hath
this
world’s goods, and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up his
bowels of
compassion from him [has no pity], how dwelleth the love of God in him?
My
little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in
deed and in
truth.” Here is echoed the words of Jesus as we noticed in John
15:12-13. Here
we see, even as James said that faith without works is dead (James
2:15-18),
love without works is likewise dead. Love is not just something we talk
about;
it is not just something we “feel,” it is something that we do out of
unselfish
concern. “No Murderer,” “Lay Down Our Lives,” Sustain Life
And this
Scripture in 1 John 3:16-18 is further accented when we read the verses
right
before it (verses 14 and 15). “We know that we have passed from death
unto
life, because we love the brethren. He that loveth not his brother
abideth in
death. Whosoever hateth his brother is a murderer: and ye know that no
murderer
hath eternal life abiding in him.” John goes on to say, as we noticed,
“we
ought to lay down our lives for the brethren” (not hate them and in our
hearts
be guilty of murder). One way of doing this, just the opposite of
murder, is in
helping them sustain their lives. We see their need and give unto them
of “this
world’s goods.” To the one who is not properly clothed and “destitute
of daily
food,” we do more than say, “Depart in peace, be ye warmed and filled,”
not
giving them that which is “needful to the body” (James 2:15-16). We do
more
than say, “I am sorry for you.” We help. We give of our means and of
ourselves. We Can Give Without Loving, But We Cannot Love Without Giving
But we always
need to remember 1 Corinthians 13:3, “And though I bestow all my goods
to feed
the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity
[love],
it profiteth me nothing.” “For
the gift without the giver is bare” ( II. “If you love me, keep my commandments” “If You Love Me…”
The Lord said
to His disciples, “If you love me, keep my
commandments” (John 14:15). Many, many
years later the apostle John would write in his Second Epistle to the
“elect
lady” that he was not writing a new commandment to her, “but that which
we had
from the beginning, that we love one another: And this is love, that we
walk
after his commandments. This is the commandment, That, as ye have heard
from
the beginning, ye should walk in it” (2 John, verses 5 and 6). Love
Prompts Obedience
Genuine love
prompts obedience. There are different legitimate motives that move us
to
obedience, but love is the most basic and compelling. In our initial
relationship to God, the “goodness of God” leads us to repentance
(Romans 2:4).
Then, as John said, “We love him, because he first loved us” (1 John
4:19). And
this love is continually made evident by our responding in obedience.
“Lord,
what will you have me do?” According to Christ, our love finds
fulfillment and
expression in keeping His commandments. This does not detract from our
personal
relationship to Him, but strikingly makes it obvious.
The
Old Testament
and the New Testament
This
unambiguous truth is nothing new in the Bible. Many times we leave out
the
concept of love when we talk about the Old Testament, but love
definitely is there
(although encased in a legal context). In listing the Ten Commandments,
God
said that He was showing “mercy unto thousands of them that love me and keep my command- ments”
(Deuteronomy 5:10). This matter of loving Him and keeping His
commandments is
stated time and time again (Deuteronomy 7:9; 11:1; 30:16, 20; etc.).
Then in
His two-pronged answer to the question about the great commandment in
the Law,
the Lord Jesus summed it up by relating it to love (Matthew 22:36-40).
(And, we
might add for purposes of clarity, in comparison with the Old Testament
Law,
the New Testament is not a legal system per
se; it is “the faith.” Commands are more informally stated, as we
think in
terms of the “obedience to the faith,” Romans 1:5, not in terms of a
set of
rules—but commands are commands, and are not any less important, and in
the
keeping of these commandments love prevails as a definite expression of
love).
Yes,
the Lord
Jesus said, “If you love me, keep my commandments.” Many of His
commandments
were spoken during His ministry. After His resurrection, He gave the
Great
Commission (Matthew 28:18-20). It ended by saying, “Teaching them to observe
all things whatsoever I have commanded you…” The Lord had said
that
when the Holy Spirit came, whom he would send, He would guide the
apostles into
all truth involving the New Testament (John 14:26). Consequently, the
apostle
Paul would say later that the things he was writing were “the
commandments of
the Lord” (1 Corinthians 14:37). They were as if the Lord was speaking
directly. The commandments of the Lord involve the whole spectrum of
the New
Testament. Our love for the Lord, if it is real, will move us to search
out
what the Lord has said and put it into practice. Love Begins and Ends in Keeping the Lord’s Commandments
Keeping the
commandments of the Lord begins in love and ends in love (the command
to love,
itself, being the most prominent commandment that prompts us to obey
all other
commandments). Love gets us on the way to obeying the Lord’s commands,
as we
walk in love (Ephesians 5:1-2; 2 John, verses 5 and 6). Then in
obedience to
the commands we perfect this love. John said that “whoso keepeth his
Word, in
him verily is the love of God perfected: hereby know we that we are in
him” (1
John 2:5). Interestingly, that which got us started in obeying the
Lord’s
commands is the goal we are reaching for in obeying His commands. Paul
asserted, “Now the end [goal] of the
commandment is charity [love] out of a
pure heart, and of a good conscience, and of faith unfeigned” (1
Timothy 1:5).
How amazing! Truly, keeping the Lord’s commandments is a genuine
expression of
love for Him. We want to please Him. II. Love “rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth” (1 Corinthians 13:6). TruthReceived, Rejoiced
In and
Appreciated
Under this
point, the consideration of an expression of love that we are now
looking at
involves truth. We see evidence and expression of this love by rejoicing in the truth, with a negative
backside (which we will
also notice
shortly). We are to “receive” the love
of the truth that
we might be saved (2 Thessalonians 2:10), and having received it, we
are to
rejoice in it with appreciation and thanksgiving (Romans 1:18-22), or we
will lose it. When men do not love the truth, and accordingly do not
manifest
meaningful expressions of it, Paul says, “For the time will come when
they will
not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to
themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away
their ears
from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables” (2 Timothy 4:3-4).
(Lust is
the illicit parallel and opposite of love). “What
Is Truth?”
In responding
to Jesus, Pilate asked, “What is truth?” (John 18:38). And we ask, from
the New
Testament perspective, “What is truth?” For one thing, when we talk
about
loving the truth, we are talking about God who cannot lie (Titus 1:2).
We are
talking about Christ, who said, “I am the way, the truth, and the life:
no man
cometh unto the Father, but by me” (John 14:6). We are talking about
the Holy
Spirit, who is called “the Spirit of truth” (John 16:13; 1 John 5:6),
and His
revelation to us. In other words, we are talking about the Word of God,
of
which Jesus prayed to the Father, “Sanctify them through thy truth: thy
Word is
truth” (John 17:17). All of these great truths, including salvation and
the way
that we are to live, are embodied in the Scriptures (and from our
Christian
perspective, in the New Testament, 2 Peter 1:12). In these great truths
we rejoice. The
Positive and Negative Backside
As we implied,
there is a negative and a positive side in the expression of love for
the
truth. Love “rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth.”
Taking it
a step further, in talking about Christ, Hebrews 1:9 says, “Thou hast loved
righteousness, and hated iniquity;
therefore God, even
thy God, hath anointed thee with the oil of
gladness above thy fellows.”
Really, the Bible teaches that if we have an intense love for what is
right, we
will hate the wrong. The flip side of the coin of love is hate (in a
wholesome
sense). The Psalmist wrote, “I love thy
commandments above gold;
yea, above fine gold. Therefore I esteem all
thy precepts concerning
all things to be right; and I hate every false
way” (Psalms
119:127-128). In the New Testament, John that great apostle of love
hated the
“deeds” and “doctrine of the Nicolaitanes” (Revelation 2:6, 15). Yes,
the
apostle Paul instructs us in Romans 12:9, “Abhor that which is evil;
cleave to
that which is good.” It is that simple. This is how our love for truth
is
expressed. A
Word of Warning
Perhaps a word
of warning is in order, as we give a little more attention to a
Scripture that
we have already mentioned. There is not much respect or love for truth
in the
realm of religion today. “Believe whatever you like; it doesn’t
matter.” The
Scripture we are talking about is found in 2 Thessalonians chapter 2.
It is
very sobering. Here a falling away from the true church is prophesied
with the
eventual coming of the man of sin. With the coming of this apostasy,
Paul
asserts, “Because they received not the love of the truth, that they
might be
saved. And for this cause God shall send them strong delusion, that
they should
believe a lie: That they all might be damned who believed not the
truth, but
had pleasure in unrighteousness” (2 Thessalonians 2:10b-12). Note. If
we do not
love the truth, we set ourselves up for the devil (who is the father of
the
lie—John 8:44), apostasy and delusion. May our love for the truth never
wane!
Let us unwaveringly hold to it—love,
value and appreciate it! IV. “As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent” (Revelation 3:19). An Expression of Love Some would hesitate to think of rebuke as an expression of love. But that is what our Lord said, “As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten.” Hebrews 12:5-6, which is a quotation from Proverbs 3:11-12, reads, “My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.” This is an extended concept of a father correcting his children. Proverbs 13:24 further reads, “He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes [promptly].” Love does not want an errant person or child to continue in a way that is not for their well-being (a way that may even mean their destruction or eternal damnation). To not take action, as Proverbs said, is equivalent to hating them. Sometimes rebuke is just what is needed to get a person’s attention, to shake them up a little, and to turn them around. Love will not stand idly by. Expressed
in Love
Rebuke, in more places than one, is enjoined in the New Testament (Luke 17:3; 2 Timothy 4:2; Titus 1:13; 2:15; etc.). But for rebuke to be an expression of love, it must be an expression of love, i.e., expressed in love. Along with love, other important ingredients are humility and meekness. Galatians 6:1 admonishes us, “Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such a one in the spirit of meekness: considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.” (There is no room for self-righteousness. But different kinds of rebuke are appropriate under different kinds of circumstances involving different kinds of people). Consider Matthew 7:1-5. Add longsuffering, as we exercise humility and meekness (2 Timothy 4:2). With this combination, people will be more disposed to receive what we have to say as being an expression of love. “Provoke
Not Your Children”
To these thoughts, which included reference to human fathers, and, to their rebuke and love, we add the following. Here, too, for the rebuke to be an expression of love it should be expressed in love. The apostle Paul instructs, “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4). “Rebuke
and Chasten”
Paul did not hesitate to rebuke and take corrective measures when this was needed in the churches (Read 1 and 2 Corinthians). Fathers and families should not hesitate to do this (Eli didn’t do this in the Old Testament—1 Samuel 3:11-14). Remember, the Lord said, “As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent” (Revelation 3:19). Concluding
Statement
This concludes our article on
“Expressions of Love.” There is so much that could be and should be
said, but
we have been somewhat selective in highlighting the truths we have
tried to
bring out. Christianity is the ultimate expression of love.
Consequently, every
facet of a Christian’s life should be permeated with love. Let us live
accordingly, ever keeping these wonderful truths before us, as we
spread the
gospel of Christ. Amen.
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